Power of the tongue

The truth is that conflict will arise in marriages and in all types of relationships. It’s inevitable… one of the biggest revelations I have had since Coming to Christ is understanding the power of my words. Concerning marriages I’ve learned how to bridle my tongue, picking and choosing my battles. Not everything requires a response. Especially when anger is involved. I never try to sweep an issue under the rug, but I do hold off on a response until I have fully composed myself. Until the anger has subsided. Immediate responses motivated by emotions tend to be the wrong responses. The tongue can either incite a fire or calm a storm. Consider your words carefully, consider your responses carefully. You can’t control what others say and do but you can control what YOU say and do. #idefinefatherhood #Jesus #marriage #husbandandwife #love


Love thy neighborΒ 

We serve a God who shows no partiality between people on earth. Rich/poor, black/white, etc. he loves us ALL! Anyone who moves in the name of Christ yet is prejudice against another for whatever reason is NOT of Christ. Period. Our country is stricken with sin in the form of racial injustices. It is something that we as Christians must combat against, but we do not combat in the form of violence, slandering or strife. Violence only brings forth more violence. We combat in prayer and love. Christ Love. The greatest form of Love that has the power to change ones heart. Only that type of love brings forth change. So pray for those who have hardened hearts and love on those who slander you. For the God of this world has blinded them in their hate and their fate is sealed unless we engage and show them a different way. Jesus way. #unitedinChrist #idefinefatherhood #love #Jesus #God


Wednesday July 12th, 2017 I was BAPTIZED!!!!!!!πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ™πŸ½πŸ™πŸ½πŸ™πŸ½πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. Such an emotional experience… words cannot describe the array of emotions I was feeling that night… one moment laughter, the next tears, the next joy, and then tears and laughter again πŸ˜‚. To be able to stand before my church family and profess the name of Jesus Christ was amazing smh… I was in deep prayer and worship the moment I arrived at church… I couldn’t stop smiling πŸ˜‚πŸ˜… oh and the journey! Smh… THE JOURNEY!!!πŸ™ŒπŸ½πŸ™ŒπŸ½ The world gave me nothing… in fact it took from me… but Jesus?! Though I can’t physically see him, He has given me EVERYTHING! He brings life to dead bones! I’m so thankful he entered my heart and changed it…I’m forever grateful! Thank you to my wife Lesley and my family for coming out to support me… it means the world to me! And God bless to the other 18 individuals who were baptized along side of me. It was as if we were truly family… so much love pouring out from one another. My brothers and sisters in Christ! Thank you Jesus… thank you!!!!!! #baptized #Jesus #idefinefatherhood #grace

Workshop Workshop!!


Monday, August 3rd @6:30pm, I Define Fatherhood will be holding its first official workshop! Workshops are carefully crafted meetings, centered around biblical teachings. Our goal is to enhance leadership qualities in men as both husbands and fathers with God as the foundation. The workshop will also be a great opportunity to meet and network with like minded men who desire change. Refreshments will be provided and sitting is limited so PLEASE RSVP ASAP to reserve your spot! All reservations can be emailed toΒ Β  idefinefatherhood@gmail. Location will be disclosed upon reservation. Thank you and God Bless!

Fathers matter


According to the U.S. Census Bureau, nearly 24 million (1 out of 3) children in America live without their biological father in the home.The occurrence is even more prevalent in African American households, where a staggering 55% of all black children live in single parent homes, of which 51% are lead by just a mother. Single parent homes are rapidly becoming the norm in today’s society. Surely I tell you men, on this current path, we are heading towards destruction. Look around… it’s no coincidence that our community is falling apart. Invite God into your life and into your family’s life and correct the course. #idefinefatherhood #familymatters #fathersmatter #spiritualleader #love #god #jesusheals #holyspirit #change #parenthood #wakeup #wearethedifference #detroit #america

God is Restoration


A lot of couples make the mistake of believing that a marriage is a union of only two people, one man and one woman, and as a result, many of those marriages end in divorce. Marriage is not a union of two people, but THREE. It is a union of one man, one woman and GOD, it is a holy union. Most divorces arise from a hardened heart, a hardened heart is an unforgiving heart, and a unforgiving heart is a sinful heart. Essentially marriages that end divorce is a result of couples not inviting God into their marriage. They try to do it on their own. The problem with that is when conflict arises they lack wisdom and guidance to come through it. They rely on their own wisdom or wisdom of others to resolve their problems. They seek alternative routes instead of the one true route in God. Man is flawed and as a result any advice we can muster up will be flawed in some way. But God is RIGHTEOUS! he is ALL KNOWING and POWERFUL! he is GRACE! he is LOVE! and he is RESTORATION to a broken marriage. Fall to your knees! Lift up your voice and call out to the father to enter your marriage! The Devil seeks to destroy your marriage and push you further away from God. He preys on God-less marriages and devours them, but God believes in you and your marriage and wants nothing, but to be a part of it. The question is, will you allow him to be? #idefinefatherhood #husbandandwife #nevergiveup #therock #love #jesus #god #holyunion #dontletthedevilwin #fatherhood #husband #spiritualleader #detroitbaby #restoration #holyspirit

Everything in God’s will


As much as I would welcome a larger disposable income, not having one has enabled me to learn a lot about fixing things. When things break down around the house my 1st instinct isn’t to rush out and buy something new nor is it to pay someone to fix it for me. I’m sure if I had the extra money,Β  that’s exactly what I would do, but what growth is to be gained from a obstacle that is easy to overcome? So instead of feeling sorry for myself or becoming stressed when things break down, I take DELIGHT in them. I take delight and give thanks because I belong to Christ Jesus and I know that this is the will of God as it concerns me (1Th 5:18). As a Christian I live to be in God’s will. I do not want to live a life outside of God’s will, because to me… to live outside of God’s will, is not to live at all. #idefinefatherhood #lawnmowerman #mrDIY #God’swill #marriage #husbandandwife #parenthood #spiritualleader #endure #love #Christ #jesus #learningexperience #strength

Gay Marriage


Just because I do not agree with your choice, does not mean that I hate you. I’m sorry that some Christians, use the name of God to make you feel less than human, less than equal. That isn’t what Jesus Christ taught. Surely I tell you, I do not hate you, on the contrary I LOVE YOU! I love you enough to say that I do not agree with it. Do not confuse my disagreement with “judgment” for it is written that there is only ONE lawgiver and judge (James4:12). I speak LOVINGLY truth with my neighbor. Truth established by the word of God and not by what’s socially acceptable. The word is truth and truth alone. God bless you!!!!! #idefinefatherhood #gaymarriage #Christ #Jesus #God #conquerthyflesh #onemanonewoman #Lovethyneighbor #godhealsall #marriage #fatherhood #parenthood #parenthood #love

The Narrow Gate


Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.” Mt 7:13-14

The gate that leads to destruction is wide because it allows many ways to enter through it..many roads..and many routes… it is easy because it lacks accountability. Accountability is left up to the individual, determining what is right and just in one’s own eye. This gate will inevitably welcome many more people. The gate to life is narrow because it allows for only one way..one road..and one route to enter through it. That route is through Jesus Christ. Accountability is upheld by the word. Unfortunately only few will enter through this gate… so I guess the real question is…Which gate will you choose?
Make no mistake, we all will make a choice.
#narrowgatefollower #idefinefatherhood #conquerthyflesh #Jesus #God #husband #father #marriage #love #detroit #fatherhood #onegodoneway #matthew7

On Guard


We have this misconception that the devil, because of who he is and what he is capable of, that he carries out all his schemes in grand spectacles. We expect his attacks to be distinguishable. We expect them to be noticeable. But do not underestimate your opponent, for the strongestΒ  adversary is one that carries out his plans in the subtlest of ways. He patiently and strategically chips away at the armor. Invading undetected and unexpectedly. For how much easier is it to attack a fortress if the inhabitants never see the attack coming? #idefinefatherhood #wordofGod #alwaysondefense #goldenarmor #Love #father #marriage #Jesus #God #Christ #armyourselfwiththeword #Ephisians6:10-20